Drama within the BDSM "Community"

This silliness has to STOP. It helps no one. Period.

Of late there has been a crapload of drama, hate, slander, hearsay, etc etc etc, within the Montreal BDSM "community". I will NOT add to it. I will only say this:

STOP IT!!!! PLEASE!!!!

Those posting hearsay only hurt themselves. Those posting slander will only hurt themselves. Those feeding the drama will only hurt themselves the most.

This is all silly, stupid, childish, and not needed.

So please, please, PLEASE!!!!  STOP!!!!

Acting like a silly junior high student does not help.

Wow, that long since my last??? whoah....

Wow... didn't realize that it was so long between entries... sorry! It's not like there hasn't been things happening etc, au contraire! Been busy as a bee lol.

What has been keeping me busy? Well of course the ALCC! :P Don't be fooled by immitators (yes one has started up... ).

Personal wise... things have been up and down at times. Of course I was worried for my bestest friend (well technically wife but we really are just best friends now).... she's in London, UK, and when the riots happened I did NOT sleep at all worrying. But some good stuff happened too.

We had our Montreal Pride this month, and the ALCC was there. I helped at the booth on community day and as well marched in the parade. Mental note: latex female mask is NOT a good idea in that parade when hot.... it had to be removed halfway-ish lol. We had to sit and relax for a bit afterwards, in full gear too lol. The walk back to the car was... interesting! We still had our outfits on. Yep, lotsa looks :P

The Montreal Fetish Weekend is this weekend coming, and I will be at least attending the Latextacy Ball. Wanted to attend everything... but with clips not selling enough... had to settle for just Saturday. At least will be at the meet and greet and summat on Saturday during the day as well. Plus... my T-girl friend from Toronto is in and staying with me... we iz gonna haz fun! :D Lotsa bondage etc :D And she is soooooo damn adorable!!!

Well, will write something more of substance soon.... promise! Heck, maybe a review of the Fetish Weekend :D

Yes, it's been a while!

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Naked Bike Ride / Cyclo Nu Montreal

Wow, last Saturday I participated in the World Naked Bike Ride here in Montreal... and it's apparent I need to do more biking! :P Sore afterwards, but it was worth it.

It was to bring attention to society's reliance on fossil fuels, and to help push for alternatives. Worthy cause, and I for one would like to see electric and perhaps hydrogen driven cars pushed further and faster in research. And a better public transit.

We are killing our planet relying too much on fossil fuels. Yes, vehicles are needed, that is not to be denied, as well the fact that some simply cannot, for instance, bike. Or even take transit from where they live to where they work (which shows how poor some of the system is). But we do need to research better alternatives and do it faster.

Cannot remember who took which photos, I'll have to research the photogs, if you're one tell me which and I'll credit you:

Dollification in Montreal

For those interested in learning about Dollification, I will be giving 2 workshops at the ALCC/CCVA in July. One on July 10, the other July 13. See the ALCC site schedule or our Facebook page for the events as well.

Since it is 90 minutes, it will be given in English, but I will have the material available in French as well, plus there are usually some who can help translate for you if needed (I can as well, but if it requires too much I'll talk about it afterwards).

" You must RSVP at least 24 hours in advance at info@thealcc.org, in order to attend. If no RSVP’s have been made by 24 hours prior to the workshop, it will be cancelled.

Instructor: Vanessa Cummings
Cost: $15 per person

Ever want to be one of those "love dolls" that are sold in stores and online? Ever even just want to look like one? Want to play with a live human doll or have one to call your own? Just enjoy being a doll outside of the sexual pleasure of it? This workshop will show you how.

Dollification is fairly new, but growing fast in popularity. Sites such as "The Rubber Sisters" show just how popular this is. The cost of some of the items and materials sold to make yourself or someone else up as a doll shows this as well!

There are people who live the "doll lifestyle" and enjoy it. Believe it or not, dollification is a lifestyle for some. From looking like an anime character to looking like a sex doll... this workshop explores it all.

In this workshop we will cover:
- the doll fetish
- the why's behind dollification
- female masking
- other facial maskings
- the "doll body"
- the 'Femskin' and alternatives
- how to make your own doll outfit
- where to buy the masks
- the "doll lifestyle"

BIO: While fairly new to Dollification, only about a year, Vanessa Cummings (Vanessa Fetish) has embraced it, learned about it, promoted it, and has been working to be an actual doll herself in the "doll lifestyle" and has even been featured in "Hot Girls Magazine" in January 2011 - http://thehotgirlsmagazine.com/jan2011/jan2011.htm "

"How Dare I"???? WTF????

Went to the doctors today... and whoah... transphobia/ignorance is alive and well in Montreal!!!!

I get in there, go to the reception, give my health card etc, then go sit. Well... this totally ignorant woman says to me "How dare you come to a doctors office like that when there could be children there!" (she had one btw). Whoah... what???? I had on my olive drab slacks, and a red shirt... wtf??? I said as much "what the hell do you mean? I'm not dressed provacative". She said just showing up "as a woman".

Whoah, total ignorance and intolerance.

At least I had not only the staff come to my defence, but some of the patients. One Muslim woman told her "what is wrong? If she has to be herself what concern is it to you?" and one Haitian dude told the woman to get out. The staff politely said "Madam, if you have a problem with her, please do be quiet and keep it to yourself, we will not stand for any form of hatred or discrimination, and if you do not like it we suggest you go elsewhere".

She was shut up pretty damn well. She did the "huff n puff" that those who realize that THEY are the ones wrong do, and have no recourse do. She shut up, but was red faced. She lasted at most 5 minutes and she picked up her kid and left. The poor kid with a look like "what is wrong mom" on her face because she obviously saw no prob and wondered why mommy was being that way.

So how dare I? Easy - I am me, you are you, you don't like me then that is your problem, and you can shut up n leave if you feel that strongly. I will NOT be denied my right to exist, and my right to health care.

The actions of the people in support did bring a tear to me. I was crying a bit and thanking them for being understanding, supportive, etc. As one eldery gentleman said "why wouldn't we be? You have a right to be yourself".

Politics... the necessary evil... ugh!

So, here in Canada we are upon yet another election. Ugh. And a really huh-yuuuge UGH over some stuff dying in our Senate because of the call, namely C-389 for trans rights and a veterans bill. Did I want an election? NO... not until the stuff that benefits passes like the two previously mentioned. Had they passed and made law, then hell yeah go for it. See, these two bills that died because of the election call affected me biggest. Why? Well duh, I am transsexual, and I am a veteran who has been bloody well fighting to get what I deserve. And this can potentially affect more who are in either situation or like me in both. The one in the drivers seat to ensure this passed was the NDP, and yes, I am rather upset at them for allowing this election to be called at this *point*. Yes, I have heard "well the Liberals or Bloc Quebecois could have stopped it"... but the Liberals are led by an utter IDIOT in Ignatief, and no matter would never vote to pass anything their opposite numbers wanted passed while having a minority government. The blockheads? They're a joke, they have only one interest in mind - separation, not Quebec's interests, Quebec separation, which is NOT in the interest of ANY Canadian. So yeah, Jack Layton and crew dropped the ball. That said, I will very likely vote NDP. No way am I going to vote for the Conservatives, no way for the Blockheads, and with idiot Iggy in charge of the Liberals there is NO way I'll vote for them. I may be pissed right the hell off at Jack and crew... but they are the only viable option (the Green Party just isn't ready to much yet despite some pretty good ideas). And, that said... there was no need yet for a call. The country was being run actually fairly good (those saying "oh scandal scandal!" in regards to Harper... remember - the Libs under Johnny the Cretin had a LOT more scandal that was a LOT worse. No, I am NOT praising Harper, just saying that because he had a MINORITY he had to cater to other interests than his own, which in some ways is better than a majority govt - because the minority govt has to bite the bullet and suck it up sometimes. And the budget? Heck, looked it over many times, not the greatest, but considering the crap going on in the world, it was passable. But Iggy wants to waste the countries money. Not just by calling an election that really was not needed *at this point*... but doing yet ANOTHER Liberal party idiocy - if elected cancelling the F-35. Ok, it may be a good plane, may not be, and no open tender was really offered. BUT... like the cancelled choppers of Johnny the Cretin's govt, this will cost us MORE in the end. It's maybe best to just buy them. They are not that bad a plane, yeah sure not proven yet, and only one engine (solved by our air refueling capability which knocks that argument out, and the fact the F-16 has proven itself as a single engine fighter/interceptor/bomber in many nations). But a) we have already invested money in the plane b) money would be put into CANADIAN companies by buying them c) we need top of the line planes and d) cancelling would result in both cancellation fees (like before!) AND a costly "evaluation/tender process". I like that Layton would invest money in ships for the Navy, but he does have to remember that the CF-18 is nearing it's end of life. They are breaking down, crashing, and costing a lot to keep flying now. Perhaps keeping some for Air Reserve units for domestic ops, but we need, IMO, 75+ actual NEW fighters. And the subs... scrap them... build new ones. PERIOD. Buying used has cost us MORE than it would have cost to buy 4-6 NEW nuclear subs (and yes we need nuclear subs because of the ARCTIC). Health care... right now the best platform is the NDP. Libs and Greens tied for second, the blockheads can be tossed out of the equation. We have a LOT of foreign trained doctors who actually have EXPERIENCE here in this country, driving cabs or working at fast food joints. Why? The CMA and its Quebec equivalent only favour LOCALLY trained docs, with US & UK as secondary. And in Quebec add in the stupid, dumbass LANGUAGE crap! Economy... well... hard to call there. They all have good ideas (throw out the Blockheads again... ). Yes, the Libs are probably the best for that, BUT... with Idiot Iggy in charge... I do not trust him. As for here in Quebec, I really urge Quebecois NOT to waste their vote on the BQ. It really IS a wasted vote. All the BQ has ever got us is TOKENS. When the province elected for the party in majority? We got MORE. How this is not seen is beyond me, since it is obvious.