On the gender spectrum

There has been a lot of confusion the past, oh..... 20 years... especially the past 10... in regards to the gender spectrum. There are a lot of labels for those who fall into it, and not all are accepting (even within the same community!).

This is an attempt to clarify some things.

First, the internet is abound with falsities. I see many "armchair generals" out there who say "this is what that means" and yet the next say "no, this is what that means".

Okay. Clarification here folks. From someone who has been around BEFORE the internet explosion. Someone who knows a bit. Not from what she has learned via the net, because even Wikipedia is full of falsities, lies and inaccuracies on many things.

So. First. Definitions. Yes, some may scream and shout at me for some, fine. Go for it. But remember, I've been there done that, ok?

Transsexual: Someone who was born into one sex but knows they are the other. Generally seeks genital reassignment surgery, but sometimes prefers not to. Lives full time in the sex they know they are.

Crossdresser/Transvestite: both are the SAME. Crossdresser was derived by taking the translation from latin of transvestite. A person who dresses as the opposite sex on a "part time" basis. May be for sexual reasons, often not for it. Trans = cross, vestite/vestis = clothing/dress. Transvestite = crossdresser. PC term crossdresser.

Gender Queer: someone who desires to present as someone neither male nor female specifically. Perhaps a "cross" between the two. They may feel as both "intermingled".

Gender Fluid: someone who needs to be both male and female, and will present as either as they need. They generally do not need SRS, They need to be fluid, go from one to the next as their need dictates.

Transgender: Adopted as an umbrella term for all above etc. Originally coined by a CD/TV as an insult to transsexuals, thus why many TS's do not want to be associated with that term (myself included). Mistakenly used as a seperate gender identity.

Just because someone is non-operative by need, does not make them any less "trans" than you. It is their NEED. Not yours. Your need is yours, theirs is theirs.

No one label is any better than the other. (ie a TS is no better than a "part timer CD". We're all in the spectrum)

Yes, GQ and GF deserve to be there. Think how you felt when excluded. Especially even today by much of the GLB community!!!!!

The Stupid "TG" Label

I am SICK of the "TG" label. I am NOT "a transgender"!!!!

Why?

I will tell you why!

The term transgender was coined by a crossdresser (transvestite, same thing, translate the latin ffs...) as a slap in the face to those who are transsexual. In otherwords, it is an INSULT to trans.

I will also NOT participate in the "Transgender Day of Remembrance" until 1) it removes the TG label, 2) moves it so that it is NOT in the same time sphere as Remembrance Day (Memorial Day to Yanks) and 3) acknowledges Gender Queer and Gender Fluid.

I am NOT transgender.

I am almost anything BUT. Because TG is an INSULT!!!!

Sexual Orientation...

This entry but more the comments have encouraged me to write this entry.

Look, it is plain and simple, and if people with a small mind think I am "preaching" to them, then it shows their lack of actual knowledge on the subject of sexual orientation. Sexual orientation is ALREADY there in you. It does NOT change.

Whatever you experience and move towards in your life is already *there*. It is just that you simply *have not realized it* until *that* point. It is ingrained in your BRAIN. It has been there since BIRTH.

If you are in transition, for instance, or after, and you find yourself attracted to people you were not before... it has NOT changed... it was ALREADY THERE. It was just simply something that has not "evolved" in you, moved into more focus.

As we go along in life, we will find ourselves "evolving" as a person. Things we either did not realize were there or were there and we denied, start becoming *clearer*.

Just like transition. Most deny it for years, decades even. Then bingo, something happens in our development, our personal evolution, that tells us "it is time - I have to be me".

This is NO DIFFERENT.

Those thinking that they have "changed" their sexual orientation are FOOLING THEMSELVES. It cannot be done. Period. It is simply a person developing, realizing things. That is ALL.

But, if you want to remain a total utter wally, and think sexual orientation can be changed, fine, then join the uber right wing bible thumpers and go along with their "belief" that it can be.

Gender Mosaic

I will no longer support this "organization" in any form. You will not even see a link to it here. Why?

Because the members for the most part have shown themselves to be utterly intolerant of anything but themselves. If we, the "T Community", wish acceptance and tolerance, then we must accept, tolerate, and try to understand that which is different.

I will post below bits from the group:

"Australian P.M. & Muslims

Posted by: "Kellycd53" kellycd53@hotmail.com kellycd53
Thu Jan 13, 2011 2:15 pm (PST)


All,

On my other e-mail addy , I just responded to
comments from the Australian P.M. , and added
my 20 $ worth

I am gonna catch hell , for this , from someone
I am sure

I don't care -- I have worked and lived beside
many cultures -- and been respected by most
However
Canada -- needs to wake up !!!

Time to close the doors to this country
and take care of our own 1st

I agree with the Australian P.M. totally

Kelly Ann"

MY REPLY

Re: Australian P.M. & Muslims
Posted by: "Vanessa" ladydemonikats@yahoo.ca ladydemonikats
Sat Jan 15, 2011 11:39 am (PST)


I highly disagree. First, labelling all Muslims based on the actions of a seriously bigtime minority is wrong. Do we blame all Christians based on the actions of "Reverend" Phelps and his cult? NO, we do NOT, do we?

Second, North America is founded on immigration, and the melding of various peoples from various countries. What we did to the natives and the Chinese and Japanese in the past has been condemned, and we know now it was wrong, don't we? Yet suggesting doing pretty close to the same to Muslims is okay? I think not.

Third, banning immigration or visitation for Muslims would only be the first step in ALLOWING discrimination on others. Don't think it isn't already there? The CIC already discriminates HERE based on being TRANSSEXUAL. Don't believe me? First, Tanya Bloomfield. Second, my wife. Both from the same area, Tanya Ireland I believe and Kitty from England. Both discriminated on because their passport says F but their birth certificates say M. Then there is me - denied entry into the UK, hauled aside because well, I stand out being a pretty tall TS, and all involved know why they targeted me. And others have as well.

Fourth do you KNOW any Muslims? I doubt it. I know many. Not one is a "terrorist" or scream out "kill the Jews" or "death to the west". And guess what, they *accept* ME as ME. Far more than most white, Christian, Canadians.

Take away their rights - then you give the rest of society to DENY OURS.

Vanessa

A response from someone who was even in the paper DEMANDING pretty much TOLERANCE!!!!:

Re: Australian P.M. & Muslims
Posted by: "linda slater" slater.linda936@gmail.com
Sat Jan 15, 2011 5:22 pm (PST)


I may have missed something here, but the Australian PM did not say to ban
Muslims, only if you don't like it here the way we live then she suggested
they could go elsewhere. That I agree with, don't change my world to match
what you are running away from. BUT BY ALL MEANS IF YOU LIKE IT HERE YOU ARE
WELCOME. Linda Slater

Response from a member who never had a clue and ALWAYS LIED:

Re: Australian P.M. & Muslims
Posted by: "Sophia Cassivi" sophia_cassivi@me.com sophialauraine
Sat Jan 15, 2011 6:27 pm (PST)


Dear friends, I do think that Gender Mosaïc's chatting group is good for all types of discussions, as long as they are respectful.

I do believe in respect of others as long as they respect me.

I remember that one of my tenants was a beautiful young early 20's blond university graduate. She was going out with this young handsome moderate Muslim and this for more than 6 months. One day I engaged into a discussion with them and he was very intelligent and kind and openly responded to all my questions. Everything was cool until I asked him if ever he has children, which choice of religion would the kids take?
He said, there is no choice, they will have to follow Islamic belief.
She said: This would mean I would have no say? And he said yes in a radical way.
I am not saying all moderate young Muslim's think this way but I must say that she and I where astonished to hear this coming out from such an intelligent person.
The next week, she had another boyfriend. I am kind of happy that I kind of opened both there eyes.

I love of freedom of speech and choice here in Canada, we still have some work to do. I know that with Bill C-389, the Liberal MP's from Scarborough Jim Karygiannis and Dan McTeague or Mr. Alan Tonks (York South—Weston) voters must have a certain pressure on there MP's and opinion of the TG community. Those guys although Liberals voted against us.
I am worried when highly religious people come in and influence MP's to vote against human rights.
I know that Conservative Minister Laurence Canon voted for us, I know he is in charge of the riding where I was born and believe me, this region is pretty cool and kind of liberated of the heavy hold we had from the french Catholic political influence we had in the past.
I am concerned when some people don't use the simple principles of life like respect, honesty, sharing, love, care, integrity and plain good sense and use instead laws and rules of a certain society or religion.
We are very lucky to have all this freedom, I have traveled many countries and would not trade Canada for any of them. I love my country, it is not perfect and we have made a lot of road to freedom in the past 100 years and should embrace this and educate any immigrant that comes in to learn how beautiful it became and how more beautiful we wish to keep it growing.
Many of my friends are from other religions, race, age or political beliefs, I do not ask them to change and don't expect to change for them.
They know I always offer them full respect as long as they fully respect me.

Kindly

Sophia Cassivi

Oh really, a niqabi in Gatineau, huh? really? so out of the 4 odd etc in Quebec they allllll happen to be there? LIAR LIAR PANTS ON FUCKING FIRE YOU LYING CUNT! This hosebag has been nothing but a whiner anyhow, and liar, drama queen, etc etc etc... so her "view" is DISCREDITED.

More BS

Re: Australian P.M. & Muslims
Posted by: "cynthia-ray Cynthia-pete" mrevals@hotmail.com cynthiapete1
Sun Jan 16, 2011 4:59 pm (PST)



Hello Linda & all;
I just had to say something at this point, and I do agree completely with
Linda. When one chooses to change their location/place of birth, they must
realize that they should not bring their problems and or troubles with them,
especially if they are the reason they are leaving. The idea of starting a new
life in a different country, should mean a new start to a new future, not
continuation of the old problems and or bringing them into a new life/land.
An Example, if we as TG 's , are given rights under the same laws as those
who are not TG's, great, but as Tg's , I am sure we do not expect everybody
else to change their beliefs or ways to suite us. Just abide with the laws.
Same thing should apply to peoples who come here hoping for a new life,
abide with the laws of the country, and not change to reflect the country you
left because of the problems..
Face it, this is Canada, we are what we are, and speaking as a TG and
proud canadian, I want to live in my own country , not to have it changed to
to a satellite country from which these problems came from.. and or
accommodate someone's beliefs ,only to find out that may over-ride my own
rights to be Canadian in the future..
My point of view and I am allowed to have one.
Take care now
Cynthia-Ray,

This is just but a sampling.

Yes, I think ONE agreed that we need to be more accepting.

Listen... we start being intolerant of others, then why should WE, the "T 'Community'" expect it in return? Why should WE expect the bill in Parliament to be passed to give US protection, when we have so many INTOLERANT to others who are different?

The Gender Mosaic Executive did NOTHING to quell the hatred. That is what disappoints me more than the attitudes of some of the members. And the inaction of those afraid to stand up to "friends" over it. Because the Executive stood back, did nothing, I will no longer ever ever support them until a PUBLIC APOLOGY is made to the MUSLIM COMMUNITY.

If we wish, desire, demand if you want, acceptance and tolerance and understanding, then we are in NO POSITION to be hateful to others!

And by the way, some of us TRANS ARE MUSLIM!!!!