Drama within the BDSM "Community"

This silliness has to STOP. It helps no one. Period.

Of late there has been a crapload of drama, hate, slander, hearsay, etc etc etc, within the Montreal BDSM "community". I will NOT add to it. I will only say this:

STOP IT!!!! PLEASE!!!!

Those posting hearsay only hurt themselves. Those posting slander will only hurt themselves. Those feeding the drama will only hurt themselves the most.

This is all silly, stupid, childish, and not needed.

So please, please, PLEASE!!!!  STOP!!!!

Acting like a silly junior high student does not help.

Dollification in Montreal

For those interested in learning about Dollification, I will be giving 2 workshops at the ALCC/CCVA in July. One on July 10, the other July 13. See the ALCC site schedule or our Facebook page for the events as well.

Since it is 90 minutes, it will be given in English, but I will have the material available in French as well, plus there are usually some who can help translate for you if needed (I can as well, but if it requires too much I'll talk about it afterwards).

" You must RSVP at least 24 hours in advance at info@thealcc.org, in order to attend. If no RSVP’s have been made by 24 hours prior to the workshop, it will be cancelled.

Instructor: Vanessa Cummings
Cost: $15 per person

Ever want to be one of those "love dolls" that are sold in stores and online? Ever even just want to look like one? Want to play with a live human doll or have one to call your own? Just enjoy being a doll outside of the sexual pleasure of it? This workshop will show you how.

Dollification is fairly new, but growing fast in popularity. Sites such as "The Rubber Sisters" show just how popular this is. The cost of some of the items and materials sold to make yourself or someone else up as a doll shows this as well!

There are people who live the "doll lifestyle" and enjoy it. Believe it or not, dollification is a lifestyle for some. From looking like an anime character to looking like a sex doll... this workshop explores it all.

In this workshop we will cover:
- the doll fetish
- the why's behind dollification
- female masking
- other facial maskings
- the "doll body"
- the 'Femskin' and alternatives
- how to make your own doll outfit
- where to buy the masks
- the "doll lifestyle"

BIO: While fairly new to Dollification, only about a year, Vanessa Cummings (Vanessa Fetish) has embraced it, learned about it, promoted it, and has been working to be an actual doll herself in the "doll lifestyle" and has even been featured in "Hot Girls Magazine" in January 2011 - http://thehotgirlsmagazine.com/jan2011/jan2011.htm "

"How Dare I"???? WTF????

Went to the doctors today... and whoah... transphobia/ignorance is alive and well in Montreal!!!!

I get in there, go to the reception, give my health card etc, then go sit. Well... this totally ignorant woman says to me "How dare you come to a doctors office like that when there could be children there!" (she had one btw). Whoah... what???? I had on my olive drab slacks, and a red shirt... wtf??? I said as much "what the hell do you mean? I'm not dressed provacative". She said just showing up "as a woman".

Whoah, total ignorance and intolerance.

At least I had not only the staff come to my defence, but some of the patients. One Muslim woman told her "what is wrong? If she has to be herself what concern is it to you?" and one Haitian dude told the woman to get out. The staff politely said "Madam, if you have a problem with her, please do be quiet and keep it to yourself, we will not stand for any form of hatred or discrimination, and if you do not like it we suggest you go elsewhere".

She was shut up pretty damn well. She did the "huff n puff" that those who realize that THEY are the ones wrong do, and have no recourse do. She shut up, but was red faced. She lasted at most 5 minutes and she picked up her kid and left. The poor kid with a look like "what is wrong mom" on her face because she obviously saw no prob and wondered why mommy was being that way.

So how dare I? Easy - I am me, you are you, you don't like me then that is your problem, and you can shut up n leave if you feel that strongly. I will NOT be denied my right to exist, and my right to health care.

The actions of the people in support did bring a tear to me. I was crying a bit and thanking them for being understanding, supportive, etc. As one eldery gentleman said "why wouldn't we be? You have a right to be yourself".

Being Transsexual Is NOT About The Clothing!

Jillian Page's blog "Patent Pending" started off good, but sadly she has focused far far too often on one thing - clothing. What started good is now really just having many just shaking their heads and wondering.

Being transsexual is NOT about the clothes. Being transsexual is about, for instance, being the person you knew you should have been, and correcting that. I did NOT start transition just so I could wear a skirt!

Anyone who thinks they are transsexual and transitions for the clothing is doing it for the WRONG reasons. Get SRS after transition for this reason... you could likely end up "de-transitioning" or worse - killing yourself.

Do I like skirts, dresses, heels, etc? Yeah, sure, duh, but I did not go through the past 13+ years of hell and discrimination for the clothing! If that were my reason - I'd be a CD/TV, and have just been happy with that, since there is NOTHING wrong with being one (I really cringe when a CD/TV says to me "oh, I'm *just* a CD/TV"... be happy with it if that is what you are ffs!).

Do I wear skirts, etc? Yeah, duh. Not every bloody day, how many genetic women wear a skirt, heels, etc every single day? Extremely FEW. I have some casual stuff I wear day to day, but apart from that I reserve the "hot stuff" for going out, videos, events, etc (videos being the videos I make to help LIVE). Sure, I have a whack of pics n vids with me in "sexy stuff"... those are taken at or before going somewhere, or before a video shoot.

But the clothing is not what makes me a woman. What makes me a woman is what is INSIDE, who I am. Not what I bloody well wear. If a "transsexual" thinks that the clothing makes a woman... they are doing it for the wrong reasons and really need to look inside and ask questions. I put transsexual in quotes because if clothing as a reason is high up on your list of why, then you very very very likely are NOT transsexual. More like a CD/TV with a transition fantasy. There is nothing wrong with that, if that is what you are, then be HAPPY, but do NOT transition... you will regret it later on in life.

I have had people in the "trans community" lambaste me for making stuff that is essentially porn... well... sorry, I have to EAT you know. $1000 a month is not a lot to live on. Try it. Not easy. I have had these people tell me "since you do porn you do not represent us". I call bullshit. I, more than them, know the HARD life that being transsexual can be. The sad fact is that many have to resort to adult oriented work of some sort, and at least I am not selling myself on the street, even though that would bring me more money. My material is done by MY rules, it is ME who is in charge of what is made 99.9% of the time, no one else, thus EMPOWERING ME.

One who is doing damage to the "trans community"? Jillian Page and any other TS that focuses so much on the clothing. It perpetuates the stereotype that we are just in it for the clothing, and nothing more. That we ALL wear skirts, heels etc EVERY DAY.

I, for one, am saddened that such a person who had such an opportunity to focus on the actual hard life being transsexual can be, has blown it of late. Sandwiched between dozens of posts about clothing and "girly girl" stuff is the occasional tidbit, but sadly she has done harm to her credibility. How about talking to those of us who have it hard? Tell the world about actual cases of discrimination, hatred, etc?

Sad.

Very.